Life Being Threatened at Work - Page 18

TLO · 08-09-2012, 12:43 PM

I need some advice here.

The other night at my workplace, I was involved in a verbal argument with a co-worker, (with my co-worker doing most of the yelling). He had an issue with the way I was doing something at work, and absolutely laid into me with a verbal assault laced with profanity.

I tried my best to ignore him, but he kept at it. Finally I turned around from my work, and told him to "shut the **** up". He got in my face, and said "this isn't over- we'll finish this in the parking lot after work".

Keep in mind I am about half his age, half his size, and he's the one yelling about how we will finish this after work. (Seems a little childish to me.) He stayed in my face for a minute or two yelling profanity, with no supervisors or any other co-workers stepping in to stop him.

I felt threatened enough that I left work, and even made a police report about the incident. (I want my bases covered in-case he ever does anything physical) The officer went into my work and warned the employee, and basically told him to back off, and that if he kept it up I could indeed press charges.

What is my next step here? I am trying to cover my ass because this worthless get me by job is just a temporary thing until I start my career. Is there any other actions I should take?

TLO · 08-09-2012, 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by petegz28

Techincally if you are twice the size of someone and you threathen someone with bodily harm it is assault and you can be arrested for such.

That's what the officer told him when he went in and talked to him. A threat could charged as 3rd degree assault. (according to a friend of mine working when the officer went in to talk to him) Now I didn't want to bring charges against him originally- I just wanted everything documented if something happened.

Brock · 08-09-2012, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by griZZly64

Why can't you fix a problem yourself without the help of the law???? You can't come in the next day and ask the person if you guys can have a quick chat about your disagreement the day before? What, you can't be bothered to actually face and solve your own problems? Nah instead lets get a criminal charge put on his record. Lets literally alter his life. Forget talking to the person and possibly receiving a sincere apology. Forget working things out and both people coming out of the situation with another life lesson learned. Forgot forgiveness. Forget human error. You've obviously never done anything wrong.

Personally, I wouldn't want anything to do with a guy like that. Somebody wants to issue threats, they need to be taken seriously, and they deserve to have it on their record. It's the only thing they understand.

splatbass · 08-09-2012, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by griZZly64

I cant afford them because I'm still paying my restitution for whistling at a woman on the street corner.

It is 2012. The 1950s are over. Maybe no one told you. No one whistles at women on the street corner anymore. Try friending them on Facebook instead.

griZZly64 · 08-09-2012, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Brock

Personally, I wouldn't want anything to do with a guy like that. Somebody wants to issue threats, they need to be taken seriously, and they deserve to have it on their record. It's the only thing they understand.

You wouldnt or cant because you don't want to have that awkward feelign when you approach him to talk things out.... wondering if he's going to be standoff-ish or receptive. Afraid co-workers might all be staring and listening to see whats goign to happen. Worried that there isnt some1 there with huge glowing cones directing your every move. What wait! Where are the other sheep? I'm all alone away from the herd. No I cannot live not being told what to like or how to feel or what's about to happen next. I cannot have suspense in my life. I don't want to live if I have to actually live. There's no damn app for this sort of thing! Lets just quit and avoid this whole situation.

griZZly64 · 08-09-2012, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by splatbass

It is 2012. The 1950s are over. Maybe no one told you. No one whistles at women on the street corner anymore. Try friending them on Facebook instead.

Only after stalking them and lookign through all their photo albums for a few months first right?

splatbass · 08-09-2012, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by griZZly64

You wouldnt or cant because you don't want to have that awkward feelign when you approach him to talk things out.... wondering if he's going to be standoff-ish or receptive. Afraid co-workers might all be staring and listening to see whats goign to happen. Worried that there isnt some1 there with huge glowing cones directing your every move. What wait! Where are the other sheep? I'm all alone away from the herd. No I cannot live not being told what to like or how to feel or what's about to happen next. I cannot have suspense in my life. I don't want to live if I have to actually live. There's no damn app for this sort of thing! Lets just quit and avoid this whole situation.

Remember those meds I mentioned? You still need to take them.

Brock · 08-09-2012, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by griZZly64

You wouldnt or cant because you don't want to have that awkward feelign when you approach him to talk things out.... wondering if he's going to be standoff-ish or receptive. Afraid co-workers might all be staring and listening to see whats goign to happen. Worried that there isnt some1 there with huge glowing cones directing your every move. What wait! Where are the other sheep? I'm all alone away from the herd. No I cannot live not being told what to like or how to feel or what's about to happen next. I cannot have suspense in my life. I don't want to live if I have to actually live. There's no damn app for this sort of thing! Lets just quit and avoid this whole situation.

I just prefer to stay away from middle aged people who think they're still in junior high and want you to meet them out by the big tree. I've moved on from that garbage. It isn't acceptable in the workplace. The rest of your post is a bunch of incomprehensible babble.

splatbass · 08-09-2012, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by griZZly64

Only after stalking them and lookign through all their photo albums for a few months first right?

You are a real piece of work.

vailpass · 08-09-2012, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by splatbass

It is 2012. The 1950s are over. Maybe no one told you. No one whistles at women on the street corner anymore. Try friending them on Facebook instead.

While a guy huddles over his computer trying to friend her that woman is going home with the guy that approached her in real life about 99% of the time.

Sucky · 08-09-2012, 05:16 PM

Havent read the whole thread but definitely let your supervisor know whats up

**Dunit35** · 08-09-2012, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by ChiefsFan369

That's what the officer told him when he went in and talked to him. A threat could charged as 3rd degree assault. (according to a friend of mine working when the officer went in to talk to him) Now I didn't want to bring charges against him originally- I just wanted everything documented if something happened.

Assault is a threat. Battery is physical harm.

Under oklahoma law.

Assault and battery can be more severe if the suspect is of robust size and strength against the victim, ie....mentally/disabled, elderly victims.

Not sure what your state law is though.

griZZly64 · 08-09-2012, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by splatbass

You are a real piece of work.

How many seconds a day are you not lookign at some sort of screen. Either cell phone, tv, computer, or ipad. It's ok to spark up a conversation with a pretty girl out in public. I promise she won't harm you. She's a real live girl. You know, the kind you watch in those videos late @ night after grandma has gone to bed and you've finished your bagel bites she cooked and plated for you.

vailpass · 08-09-2012, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by griZZly64

How many seconds a day are you not lookign at some sort of screen. Either cell phone, tv, computer, or ipad. It's ok to spark up a conversation with a pretty girl out in public. I promise she won't harm you. She's a real live girl. You know, the kind you watch in those videos late @ night after grandma has gone to bed and you've finished your bagel bites she cooked and plated for you.

Food service industry?

splatbass · 08-09-2012, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by vailpass

While a guy huddles over his computer trying to friend her that woman is going home with the guy that approached her in real life about 99% of the time.

I was being sarcastic. Approaching and talking can work. Whistling as they walk by isn't likely to.

splatbass · 08-09-2012, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by griZZly64

How many seconds a day are you not lookign at some sort of screen. Either cell phone, tv, computer, or ipad. It's ok to spark up a conversation with a pretty girl out in public. I promise she won't harm you. She's a real live girl. You know, the kind you watch in those videos late @ night after grandma has gone to bed and you've finished your bagel bites she cooked and plated for you.

I'm married. Yesterday was our 26th anniversary.

I make my living at a computer screen. A damn good one too. Get to live in beautiful Hawaii with the best weather in the world. While you guys have been suffering at over 100 we've been enjoying our usual 82 degree low humidity weather.

Oh, I see you live near Oxnard. I'm sorry.

08-09-2012, 12:43 PM
TLO Life is changing.. Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: NW Missouri Casino cash: $-2330000	Being Threatened at Work I need some advice here. The other night at my workplace, I was involved in a verbal argument with a co-worker, (with my co-worker doing most of the yelling). He had an issue with the way I was doing something at work, and absolutely laid into me with a verbal assault laced with profanity. I tried my best to ignore him, but he kept at it. Finally I turned around from my work, and told him to "shut the **** up". He got in my face, and said "this isn't over- we'll finish this in the parking lot after work". Keep in mind I am about half his age, half his size, and he's the one yelling about how we will finish this after work. (Seems a little childish to me.) He stayed in my face for a minute or two yelling profanity, with no supervisors or any other co-workers stepping in to stop him. I felt threatened enough that I left work, and even made a police report about the incident. (I want my bases covered in-case he ever does anything physical) The officer went into my work and warned the employee, and basically told him to back off, and that if he kept it up I could indeed press charges. What is my next step here? I am trying to cover my ass because this worthless get me by job is just a temporary thing until I start my career. Is there any other actions I should take?
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