Life Is it possible to have a best friend who is the opposite sex? - Page 2

El Jefe · 01-07-2010, 05:24 PM

I have pondered this, and I think it is virtually impossible. I have had 3 girls who I would consider best friends at points in my life, but all 3 came to a crashing end. They eventually came to a part where they wanted a dating relationship and I did not. I think for a guy to have a girl who is their best friend, the guy either has to be gay or the girl has to be married for it to work. At least in the kind of girls I deal with.

The most recent was a girl I posted about on here last year, we had known each other since we were kids. We dated for a couple of months while she was in her senior year. Then I cut it off when she went to college, and I thought things were cool. We were best friends up until this year, she has had a boyfriend for the last 5 years, and we were fine. Now that I have a girlfriend, she actually told me I either choose to date my current girlfriend or her friendship. So I chose to date this girl, and we have not spoke since, and I never saw it coming, she completely changed once I found somebody. I couldn't have cared less when she got a boyfriend, but apparently when we agreed to just be friends she still deep down wanted something more.

Anyone have any thoughts on this, Im sure it will change as the age group of the girls I am around continue to grow older each year. All of these girls except one are in college still FTR.

CaliforniaChief · 01-07-2010, 05:32 PM

Absolutely. I have 14 of them and it works great! /Tiger Woods

**Bugeater** · 01-07-2010, 05:33 PM

Absolutely not.

Mile High Mania · 01-07-2010, 05:33 PM

Depends... if either of you has wanted to date the other, or if you have dated in the past... I don't think you can be best friends without something awkward happening.

I've been really good friends with girls (back in my dating days), but I'm not sure they would have been called my best friend. Probably my best female friend that wasn't my girlfriend...

I dunno, I think it just boils down to the whole sex thing... and like I said, if there's a history there or if either of you would ultimately like to get sweaty and naked... the best friend thing will fail.

DumbHillbillies · 01-07-2010, 05:35 PM

No, not for me if she is decent looking I'm going to try to fuck her. If she is ugly then I'm not going to talk to her so we couldn't become best friends. So, I just stay away from the platonic girl best friend thing.

**Donger** · 01-07-2010, 05:36 PM

Of course. My wife is my best friend.

* Can't help but think of the "fuck buddy" scene from 40 Year Old Virgin *

**morphius** · 01-07-2010, 05:36 PM

Yes, even though what EyePod said is true, it can 'cause some issues if there are others involved.

Helps if they are a lesbian though, lol.

Mile High Mania · 01-07-2010, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by morphius

Yes, even though what EyePod said is true, it can 'cause some issues if there are others involved.

Helps if they are a lesbian though, lol.

Yeah, and if your best friend is a lesbian... then you can invite her over for drinking games with you and your girl... see what happens. Whole new meaning to BFF.

**Rausch** · 01-07-2010, 05:38 PM

I had one girl best friend and a number of good friends that were girls.

**morphius** · 01-07-2010, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Mile High Mania

Yeah, and if your best friend is a lesbian... then you can invite her over for drinking games with you and your girl... see what happens. Whole new meaning to BFF.

Well, that would sort of lead to the whole complication mess, wouldn't it?

Mile High Mania · 01-07-2010, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Rausch

I had one girl best friend and a number of good friends that were girls.

So, in your adult life... you had a girl that you would have called your best friend, not one of your male friends? If so, that's cool... in 3rd grade, my best friend was a girl... but, I really dug her too... so, ultimately I was just trying to get her to check the "do you like me like me" or "just like me" box.

Mile High Mania · 01-07-2010, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by morphius

Well, that would sort of lead to the whole complication mess, wouldn't it?

Certainly...

Huffman83 · 01-07-2010, 05:47 PM

I've had a lot of female friends and some were girls I dated and or had sex with. I still talk to most of them but now that I'm married I don't go out of my way to spend time with them. And my wife is comfortable me being around them, it's just I don't feel for it to be appropriate for me to be going out and about and hanging around a woman that isn't my wife. If I've gone out to meet one of those girls without my wife, it's because their boyfriends were with them.

As far as friendship goes I'm always able to pick up where our friendship left off. I've known some of the girls since I was 11 so there's a lot of history. But I would never want my wife to suspect or accuse me being interested in another woman. And while I think my female friends are some of the most beautiful women I've known, I know there's a reason why I didn't commit to them when I did have the chance!

PunkinDrublic · 01-07-2010, 05:50 PM

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with her hot friends. Guys can be such dicks to chicks they are not attracted to. You never
know when the fatty u just were mean to has a million hot, slutty friends.
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Fritz88 · 01-07-2010, 05:51 PM

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El Jefe · 01-07-2010, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by FAX

I've had a very similar experience, Mr. kcchiefsfanGoJC, and have concluded that it is, in fact, impossible for a female "best friend" or "good friend" relationship to remain Platonic. I think it has to do with spending time together. Eventually, something happens. It always does.

FAX

I agree.

01-07-2010, 05:24 PM
El Jefe Don't tread on me. Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Where the peaches grow Casino cash: $9030572	Is it possible to have a best friend who is the opposite sex? I have pondered this, and I think it is virtually impossible. I have had 3 girls who I would consider best friends at points in my life, but all 3 came to a crashing end. They eventually came to a part where they wanted a dating relationship and I did not. I think for a guy to have a girl who is their best friend, the guy either has to be gay or the girl has to be married for it to work. At least in the kind of girls I deal with. The most recent was a girl I posted about on here last year, we had known each other since we were kids. We dated for a couple of months while she was in her senior year. Then I cut it off when she went to college, and I thought things were cool. We were best friends up until this year, she has had a boyfriend for the last 5 years, and we were fine. Now that I have a girlfriend, she actually told me I either choose to date my current girlfriend or her friendship. So I chose to date this girl, and we have not spoke since, and I never saw it coming, she completely changed once I found somebody. I couldn't have cared less when she got a boyfriend, but apparently when we agreed to just be friends she still deep down wanted something more. Anyone have any thoughts on this, Im sure it will change as the age group of the girls I am around continue to grow older each year. All of these girls except one are in college still FTR.
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Mile High Mania #triggering Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Tejas Casino cash: $1087229	Depends... if either of you has wanted to date the other, or if you have dated in the past... I don't think you can be best friends without something awkward happening. I've been really good friends with girls (back in my dating days), but I'm not sure they would have been called my best friend. Probably my best female friend that wasn't my girlfriend... I dunno, I think it just boils down to the whole sex thing... and like I said, if there's a history there or if either of you would ultimately like to get sweaty and naked... the best friend thing will fail. __________________
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Huffman83 Veteran Join Date: Mar 2007 Casino cash: $10008077	I've had a lot of female friends and some were girls I dated and or had sex with. I still talk to most of them but now that I'm married I don't go out of my way to spend time with them. And my wife is comfortable me being around them, it's just I don't feel for it to be appropriate for me to be going out and about and hanging around a woman that isn't my wife. If I've gone out to meet one of those girls without my wife, it's because their boyfriends were with them. As far as friendship goes I'm always able to pick up where our friendship left off. I've known some of the girls since I was 11 so there's a lot of history. But I would never want my wife to suspect or accuse me being interested in another woman. And while I think my female friends are some of the most beautiful women I've known, I know there's a reason why I didn't commit to them when I did have the chance!
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