Saying "Goodbye" to my old man

[duncan_idaho]

My dad passed away this week. He was diagnosed with Stage IV cancer earlier this year, and had been going through chemo.

I think the family had been lulled a little into a false sense of security, of time, because he had been tolerating the chemo so well. The doctors had found a concoction they thought his heart and liver (the two most vulnerable organs he had) could work through.

I don't know if it was complications from the chemo, but his heart gave out earlier this week.

Now, I'm not writing this as a look-at-me or cry for sympathy. I'm doing this because when I think about my dad, I think about the Chiefs, and watching games with him. He's the reason I care so much. There's another reason, too, but I'll talk about it at the end.

I am so, so thankful my dad and I got to see the past five years of the Chiefs together. That he got to see them get back to the top of the mountain this year.

He was always a more even-keel, optimistic fan than me. He endured the succession of washed up QBs with eternal optimism and belief that they could turn it around in KC, just like Lenny did.

I used to sarcastically thank him for raising me as a Royals/Chiefs/Mizzou fan, but damn if that didn't make 2014, 2015, and 2018-now all the sweeter. Now I thank him in earnest.

I'm so thankful he got to see that run end (and return the good-natured digs to his fraternity brother from Colorado, who never stopped reminding Dad about the 1983 draft).

We'll put him to rest tomorrow. Going to be a hard day, no doubt about it. But I'm confident that when I watch the Chiefs, it's going to bring the good things out. When I talk about them on here, it's going to bring the good things out.

Now, that other thing I mentioned at the top; if you're wondering if there's anything you can do, what I'd really like is for you to commit to taking care of yourselves. Go to the doctor. And please, please, please get your colonoscopies. My dad's cancer started as colon cancer before spreading. He never had a colonoscopy, and I can't help but think if he just HAD, he'd still be here. We would have caught it early enough and stopped it.

And I wouldn't be standing in his place at my sister's wedding next spring. I wouldn't be giving the speech, I'd be helping him write it.

If you've read all of this, thanks for letting me ramble. Sometimes, getting the words out is the best thing for this.

Go to your check-ups. Get the colonoscopy.

[Fishels]

Originally Posted by scho63

Between 3-5 colonoscopies? Did you mean 4? I'm pretty certain I would know for sure how many I had. Were you were Shanghai'ed and forced to endure unsanctioned colonoscopies?


Going for my first colonoscopy at nearly 61 years old in mid March. Having an endoscopy at same time. Third endoscopy. GERD, Barrett's esophagus and Hiatal Hernia. Doctor's going in from both ends at once. I'm being gang banged by my Gastroenterologist.

29 and already getting colonoscopies. Did you ever consider that maybe you just enjoy having things put in your keester more than the discomfort of the prep? Not that there is anything wrong with that..

Just a thought........

. I have honestly lost track man. I got C diff in 2012 which is a nasty infection that we all have in or gut that is dormant. I had my first when I was 18 and atleast 2 more that I remember. Endoscopy as well.

[Fishels]

Originally Posted by scho63

Between 3-5 colonoscopies? Did you mean 4? I'm pretty certain I would know for sure how many I had. Were you were Shanghai'ed and forced to endure unsanctioned colonoscopies?


Going for my first colonoscopy at nearly 61 years old in mid March. Having an endoscopy at same time. Third endoscopy. GERD, Barrett's esophagus and Hiatal Hernia. Doctor's going in from both ends at once. I'm being gang banged by my Gastroenterologist.

29 and already getting colonoscopies. Did you ever consider that maybe you just enjoy having things put in your keester more than the discomfort of the prep? Not that there is anything wrong with that..

Just a thought........

Although I can understand the Jealousy. 61 and no scope vs 18-29 and 3 or more. You’ve been missing out man. Better late than ever tho

When my grandad had his first there was a new nurse working and it was her first day. She said “Mr redacted have you had this done before?)

He responded in a high voice “no but I’ve always wanted to”. She went Chiefs RED

[duncan_idaho]

Bumping this...

Was thinking about my pops this morning as the playoffs ramp up and wanted to take a moment to ask all of you to do three simple things that would help me honor him:

1) Go to your doctor regularly
2) Get your colonoscopies
3) Never, ever - and I mean NEVER - stop believing in our Kansas City Chiefs

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by duncan_idaho

Bumping this...

Was thinking about my pops this morning as the playoffs ramp up and wanted to take a moment to ask all of you to do three simple things that would help me honor him:

1) Go to your doctor regularly
2) Get your colonoscopies
3) Never, ever - and I mean NEVER - stop believing in our Kansas City Chiefs

Great advice! I'm turning the big 40 this year and have to get a colonoscopy. Not going to lie pretty nervous about it

[neech]

Originally Posted by Titty Meat

Great advice! I'm turning the big 40 this year and have to get a colonoscopy. Not going to lie pretty nervous about it

Just do the Cologuard bro its simple.

You're supposed to get it done every three years but it's an easy process.

[Al Czervik]

Originally Posted by duncan_idaho

Bumping this...

Was thinking about my pops this morning as the playoffs ramp up and wanted to take a moment to ask all of you to do three simple things that would help me honor him:

1) Go to your doctor regularly
2) Get your colonoscopies
3) Never, ever - and I mean NEVER - stop believing in our Kansas City Chiefs

Thanks for the reminder.....and great advice on all 3!!!!
RIP to your father....

[scho63]

During the 70's and 80's, being a fan and watching the KC Chiefs was just like having a colonoscopy.

[ChiefsCountry]

[crayzkirk]

I am in a similar situation. My mother is 93 and is just existing. She's not in any pain and we have hospice care. It's tough because she's still mentally aware yet doesn't want to do anything except lie around.

It sucks however it's her choice and her life. I can't imagine getting to the point where I just am waiting to die. It's hard to watch.

[duncan_idaho]

Originally Posted by Titty Meat

Great advice! I'm turning the big 40 this year and have to get a colonoscopy. Not going to lie pretty nervous about it

There’s honestly nothing to be nervous about. It’s a piece of cake.

[Dartgod]

Originally Posted by duncan_idaho

There’s honestly nothing to be nervous about. It’s a piece of cake.

Truth. This video will demonstrate how easy it is.

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by duncan_idaho

There’s honestly nothing to be nervous about. It’s a piece of cake.

Certainly better than the alternative. Thank you for bumping this thread I'm sorry your dad & family had to go through this. Today would have been my mom's birthday. Her story sounds pretty similar to your dad's never got a colonoscopy til she had some health issues then boom stage 4 cancer. We weren't really aware there was a family history of it until that happened unfortunately.

If there's anything that's good comes from it maybe someone reads this and gets checked out maybe saves their life.

Hang in there Duncan you are a good man and I'm sure your dad was very proud of you

[htismaqe]

Originally Posted by Titty Meat

Great advice! I'm turning the big 40 this year and have to get a colonoscopy. Not going to lie pretty nervous about it

Make sure to remove your butt plug before you go in.

[greg63]

My deepest sympathy for your loss.

[duncan_idaho]

Originally Posted by Titty Meat

Certainly better than the alternative. Thank you for bumping this thread I'm sorry your dad & family had to go through this. Today would have been my mom's birthday. Her story sounds pretty similar to your dad's never got a colonoscopy til she had some health issues then boom stage 4 cancer. We weren't really aware there was a family history of it until that happened unfortunately.

If there's anything that's good comes from it maybe someone reads this and gets checked out maybe saves their life.

Hang in there Duncan you are a good man and I'm sure your dad was very proud of you

I'm sorry about your mom.

Cancer sucks and time is a thief.