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Msmith · 01-23-2014, 12:39 PM

He just received his PHD in physics but he has not able to get a job. According to him, he had wonderful interviews but fell thru. One thing I notice that his teeth are somewhat yellow and the breath is overwhelming. How do I point this out to him without hurting his feeling?

Pepe Silvia · 01-23-2014, 12:50 PM

Just tell him directly but when you say it make it sound like you're just ****ing with him but end it with "Seriously though your breath smells like munched up asshole."

Carlota69 · 01-23-2014, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Dante84

I would rock it indirectly.

"Hey, friend, I just saw this article on common interview trip ups; not sure if any of these apply to you, but maybe worth a read so you can knock the next one out of the park!"

Then, if he doesn't pick up on it, I would engage him in a conversation in which I steer him into realizing it for himself.

"My friend so-and-so is a recruiter, and you would not believe what she told me about last week! This guy came into an interview and had a bolo tie and a booger in his nose. I know, right? She said she gets these people all time. People with dirty nails, nasty coffee breath, uncombed hair, missing teeth... she went on and on and said there's no way in hell she'd ever hire any of these people. Sounds like a crazy job, Makes me think about the interview scenes in step-brothers! "Pand? There's a 'd' in it?""

Dude, I went this route with my friend, and she didnt catch on at all. Its like they have no idea theyre breath is a deadly weapon. You have to be direct,. Its the only way.

Carlota69 · 01-23-2014, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by PackerinMo

Just tell him directly but when you say it make it sound like you're just ****ing with him but end it with "Seriously though your breath smells like munched up asshole."

You have to be direct. Theres no other way. Sucks, but true.

Rasputin · 01-23-2014, 12:54 PM

Don't say anything just when you are around him pinch your nose until he gets the hint.

Carlota69 · 01-23-2014, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Dante84

I would rock it indirectly.

"Hey, friend, I just saw this article on common interview trip ups; not sure if any of these apply to you, but maybe worth a read so you can knock the next one out of the park!"

Then, if he doesn't pick up on it, I would engage him in a conversation in which I steer him into realizing it for himself.

"My friend so-and-so is a recruiter, and you would not believe what she told me about last week! This guy came into an interview and had a bolo tie and a booger in his nose. I know, right? She said she gets these people all time. People with dirty nails, nasty coffee breath, uncombed hair, missing teeth... she went on and on and said there's no way in hell she'd ever hire any of these people. Sounds like a crazy job, Makes me think about the interview scenes in step-brothers! "Pand? There's a 'd' in it?""

Hey, is your sig a real email from Pioli?

Beef Supreme · 01-23-2014, 12:56 PM

Mail him a bottle of Scope with a note that says, "Anyone can have bad breath, pal, but you could knock a buzzard off a shitwagon."

Amnorix · 01-23-2014, 12:59 PM

Usually hard-core science types aren't good at subtle hints, and aren't good at self-awareness.

So if he's typical of that breed, then I'd go something like this.

"As you probably know personal appearance and presentation is important when it comes to getting a job. I'm only going to tell you about this because it may help you, because I personally don't care -- BUT it can't really help that you have dragonbreath as often as not. Maybe you don't even know it, but whatever -- that isn't going to impress whoever is interviewing you. You might even look into those stupid white strips or something to help whiten teeth as well. Can't hurt and do what you want, but figured I'd try to help."

And if he's a typical science guy, then he's about as sensitive as a rock, and won't be insulted, but rather will factor that into his planning for the next interview.

But yeah, alot of this runs off your own understanding of your relationship with him and his personality.

Amnorix · 01-23-2014, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Carlota69

Dude, I went this route with my friend, and she didnt catch on at all. Its like they have no idea theyre breath is a deadly weapon. You have to be direct,. Its the only way.

Agreed.

Msmith · 01-23-2014, 01:00 PM

I found this article about hygiene and interview:

Link: http://health.howstuffworks.com/well...-interview.htm

I wonder if it works.

Dante84 · 01-23-2014, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Carlota69

Hey, is your sig a real email from Pioli?

Yes, I copied it from when they were doing that wrongful termination lawsuit. One of the pictures has it displayed on a projector while he is on the stand.

**Easy 6** · 01-23-2014, 01:03 PM

I'd tell him something an old high school buddy used to say to people he wanted to cut down...

Scope Scope dat aint no joke, ya bref stank, take a drank.

Mosbonian · 01-23-2014, 01:06 PM

You don't know how many times I've sat in an interview room and had tears in my eyes because of the smell. And people are oblivious to it....and some have come from recruiters so you would think they would know.

How about the flip side of this...anyone ever done an interview with someone whose cologne/perfume was so strong you could smell it 5 minutes before they showed up?

Carlota69 · 01-23-2014, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Dante84

Yes, I copied it from when they were doing that wrongful termination lawsuit. One of the pictures has it displayed on a projector while he is on the stand.

Jeeez....

Amnorix · 01-23-2014, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mosbonian

How about the flip side of this...anyone ever done an interview with someone whose cologne/perfume was so strong you could smell it 5 minutes before they showed up?

Yes, and half an hour after they left. We have specifically NOT hired people just for that reason. You could KILL everything else, but because your cologne/perfume (usually perfume) would KILL US, we won't hire you.

**BigMeatballDave** · 01-23-2014, 01:11 PM

Ask him if he's been eating dog shit.

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Amnorix In BB I trust Join Date: May 2003 Location: Boston, Mass. Casino cash: $10029808	Usually hard-core science types aren't good at subtle hints, and aren't good at self-awareness. So if he's typical of that breed, then I'd go something like this. "As you probably know personal appearance and presentation is important when it comes to getting a job. I'm only going to tell you about this because it may help you, because I personally don't care -- BUT it can't really help that you have dragonbreath as often as not. Maybe you don't even know it, but whatever -- that isn't going to impress whoever is interviewing you. You might even look into those stupid white strips or something to help whiten teeth as well. Can't hurt and do what you want, but figured I'd try to help." And if he's a typical science guy, then he's about as sensitive as a rock, and won't be insulted, but rather will factor that into his planning for the next interview. But yeah, alot of this runs off your own understanding of your relationship with him and his personality. __________________ "I love signature blocks on the Internet. I get to put whatever the hell I want in quotes, pick a pretend author, and bang, it's like he really said it." George Washington
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Mosbonian On Hiatus Join Date: Aug 2000 Casino cash: $-1070300	You don't know how many times I've sat in an interview room and had tears in my eyes because of the smell. And people are oblivious to it....and some have come from recruiters so you would think they would know. How about the flip side of this...anyone ever done an interview with someone whose cologne/perfume was so strong you could smell it 5 minutes before they showed up?
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