Life Is it possible to have a best friend who is the opposite sex? - Page 7

El Jefe · 01-07-2010, 05:24 PM

I have pondered this, and I think it is virtually impossible. I have had 3 girls who I would consider best friends at points in my life, but all 3 came to a crashing end. They eventually came to a part where they wanted a dating relationship and I did not. I think for a guy to have a girl who is their best friend, the guy either has to be gay or the girl has to be married for it to work. At least in the kind of girls I deal with.

The most recent was a girl I posted about on here last year, we had known each other since we were kids. We dated for a couple of months while she was in her senior year. Then I cut it off when she went to college, and I thought things were cool. We were best friends up until this year, she has had a boyfriend for the last 5 years, and we were fine. Now that I have a girlfriend, she actually told me I either choose to date my current girlfriend or her friendship. So I chose to date this girl, and we have not spoke since, and I never saw it coming, she completely changed once I found somebody. I couldn't have cared less when she got a boyfriend, but apparently when we agreed to just be friends she still deep down wanted something more.

Anyone have any thoughts on this, Im sure it will change as the age group of the girls I am around continue to grow older each year. All of these girls except one are in college still FTR.

ziggysocki · 01-07-2010, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by mlyonsd

Ok, so we're at the tail end of a blizzard and my best friend (wife) and I are getting ready to go push more snow.

She tries on my bomber hat and says I have a small head. She says she looks at it every day and its a small head.

WTF does that mean? Does she think she's smarter than me?

Time to go bury her in a snow bank.

Make sure you give her a nice warm glass of Antifreeze first.

**Rain Man** · 01-07-2010, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by mlyonsd

Ok, so we're at the tail end of a blizzard and my best friend (wife) and I are getting ready to go push more snow.

She tries on my bomber hat and says I have a small head. She says she looks at it every day and its a small head.

WTF does that mean? Does she think she's smarter than me?

Time to go bury her in a snow bank.

Who's going out to shovel snow? That'll answer the brains question.

I got a bomber hat for Christmas, and holy cow that sucker is warm. I wore it in today, about two miles in ten degree weather and my ears never even got cold, much less numb.

jidar · 01-07-2010, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

Okay, ziggy, you're in. jidar is out. mlyons is out. And yeah, no gay stuff. In fact, no sleeping in the same bed under any circumstances, even if you turn out to be a girl.

Man, this is bullshit

Like naming a horse gluestick

Look, if me and your bud light were hanging off of a cliff which would you save?

**mlyonsd** · 01-07-2010, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ziggysocki

Make sure you give her a nice warm glass of Antifreeze first.

Temp -9, wind 20. And yes we have antifreeze. Guess that's why we're dumb enough to go do it.

ziggysocki · 01-07-2010, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by jidar

Man, this is bullshit

Like naming a horse gluestick

Look, if me and your bud light were hanging off of a cliff which would you save?

Is the bud light cold?

**Kyle DeLexus** · 01-07-2010, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Bearcat

Well, we all know that 99% of Chiefsplanet males were the star QB in high school, prom king, voted most likely to be accepted into beautifulpeople.com, and f***ed every beautiful woman at their college and the 3 closest schools... twice. They're so used to looking down to find a vagina or a mouth wrapped around their penis, they couldn't imagine how it's not an inevitable occurrence for every other person on the planet.

yeah, I need to get laid, stfu

Seriously though, my female friends are some of the smartest people I know, and without mutual interest one way or the other, we're not going to ruin the friendship because we aren't mature enough. I don't get why so many people say it's impossible.

Hey don't be hating on us members of beautifulpeople.com! We are just looking for relationships with people who meet our standards and we don't want to waste our time going through profile after profile of 1-8's. You must be at least a 9.5 to ride this ride.....unless i'm drunk....then it's more like a 7.35

**mlyonsd** · 01-07-2010, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

Who's going out to shovel snow? That'll answer the brains question.

I got a bomber hat for Christmas, and holy cow that sucker is warm. I wore it in today, about two miles in ten degree weather and my ears never even got cold, much less numb.

Picturing you running in shorts wearing a bomber hat has me rethinking if I don't want to be your best friend. Maybe I should dump the wife that thinks I have a small head.

**Lumpy** · 01-07-2010, 08:40 PM

When I was younger, all of my friends were guys. Some became more than friends, some didn't. But now that I'm married, I wouldn't feel comfortable having a guy friend. It's the same w/ my husband. When we first started dating, he had a few chick friends. But now that we're married, he no longer befriends women and I no longer befriend men.

There is just too much confusion when it comes to the whole opposite sex friend stuff when you're married. But if you're single, I'm sure it could work out... but there's always a chance of the friendship turning into more.

Dottefan · 01-07-2010, 08:40 PM

I had a female best friend once, when I was 17...by 18 she was an ex girl friend. Since then I`ve had quit a few female friends that I would hang out with...but no best friends.

ziggysocki · 01-07-2010, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Lumpy

When I was younger, all of my friends were guys. Some became more than friends, some didn't. But now that I'm married, I wouldn't feel comfortable having a guy friend. It's the same w/ my husband. When we first started dating, he had a few chick friends. But now that we're married, he no longer befriends women and I no longer befriend men.

There is just too much confusion when it comes to the whole opposite sex friend stuff when you're married. But if you're single, I'm sure it could work out... but there's always a chance of the friendship turning into more.

I guarantee you all those young guy friends would have jumped your bones in 2 seconds flat given the opportunity. And it doesn't change as times go on, but situation will take the time it takes to try from 2 seconds to 2 days or 2 weeks. They may hold it back, but it is there.

jidar · 01-07-2010, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Dottefan

I had a female best friend once, when I was 17...by 18 she was an ex girl friend. Since then I`ve had quit a few female friends that I would hang out with...but no best friends.

I really think all of these responses from people saying things like "I had a best friend of the opposite sex... but then we had sex" are really 'no' answers. It just hammers home the point that it doesn't work.

ziggysocki · 01-07-2010, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by jidar

I really think all of these responses from people saying things like "I had a best friend of the opposite sex... but then we had sex" are really 'no' answers. It just hammers home the point that it doesn't work.

I second this motion.

**Gonzo** · 01-07-2010, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ziggysocki

I guarantee you all those young guy friends would have jumped your bones in 2 seconds flat given the opportunity. And it doesn't change as times go on, but situation will take the time it takes to try from 2 seconds to 2 days or 2 weeks. They may hold it back, but it is there.

Maybe back in the day before we met, that would've been the case but not now. Anyone who's even tried to become friends with my wife are very aware of my "anti-adultery" arsenal.
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ziggysocki · 01-07-2010, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Gonzo

Maybe back in the day before we met, that would've been the case but not now. Anyone who's even tried to become friends with my wife are very aware of my "anti-adultery" arsenal.
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I am not saying they would act on it... but that is because of the situation. Not the fact that they want to be 'best friends' that is just better than nothing when they would rather be slipping her the salami.

bobbymitch · 01-07-2010, 09:05 PM

kcchiefsfan - in this case, to answer your question, no.

My advice to you is to take the bus as you drive through to many signals.

01-07-2010, 05:24 PM
El Jefe Don't tread on me. Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Where the peaches grow Casino cash: $9030572	Is it possible to have a best friend who is the opposite sex? I have pondered this, and I think it is virtually impossible. I have had 3 girls who I would consider best friends at points in my life, but all 3 came to a crashing end. They eventually came to a part where they wanted a dating relationship and I did not. I think for a guy to have a girl who is their best friend, the guy either has to be gay or the girl has to be married for it to work. At least in the kind of girls I deal with. The most recent was a girl I posted about on here last year, we had known each other since we were kids. We dated for a couple of months while she was in her senior year. Then I cut it off when she went to college, and I thought things were cool. We were best friends up until this year, she has had a boyfriend for the last 5 years, and we were fine. Now that I have a girlfriend, she actually told me I either choose to date my current girlfriend or her friendship. So I chose to date this girl, and we have not spoke since, and I never saw it coming, she completely changed once I found somebody. I couldn't have cared less when she got a boyfriend, but apparently when we agreed to just be friends she still deep down wanted something more. Anyone have any thoughts on this, Im sure it will change as the age group of the girls I am around continue to grow older each year. All of these girls except one are in college still FTR.
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01-07-2010, 08:40 PM	#99
Dottefan Banned Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: FROM KCK, LIVIN N J\O Casino cash: $10004900	I had a female best friend once, when I was 17...by 18 she was an ex girl friend. Since then I`ve had quit a few female friends that I would hang out with...but no best friends.
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01-07-2010, 09:05 PM	#105
bobbymitch Starter Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Midwest coast Casino cash: $9883512	kcchiefsfan - in this case, to answer your question, no. My advice to you is to take the bus as you drive through to many signals.
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