Would you change 1 thing about your past if you could?

[tooge]

Sort of a piggy back off of the 1 regret thread. You have a choice. You can stay the course of your life, or you could go back and change 1 thing. Would you change anything, and what would it be? Knowing of course, that changing even 1 small thing could lead to a completely different life now, possibly worse, because our lives are shaped by the sum of all of our experiences.

I think I would not change anything at all. I'm happy how it's all turned out to this point.

[Jewish Rabbi]

Originally Posted by scho63

There are more important things I would undo or redo if I could but one of the most unique things happened in 1991 or 1992.

I was working for Dean Witter in New Jersey for several years after leaving a penny stock firm, Investors Center, that was a scam. Jordon Belfort got his start there.

I was given two tickets by my manager to the Dean Witter Memorial Golf Tournament in Columbus Ohio that also included the company's hospitality tent.

I was a big golfer and played with my manager and a couple of colleagues often so he knew how much I would cherish them.

Another buddy that worked with me prior and was now at another Dean Witter office agreed to drive out with me. My buddy had a friend from growing up in Pittsburgh that was going to Ohio State and had rooms for us to crash.

We packed up and made the 8 hour trip from NJ to OH. Got to see Ohio State University Stadium during a big track meet and was surprised how cold it was with all the concrete and old surroundings.

Sunday arrived and we headed to the course.

After watching for several hours, we hit the hospitality tent for food and booze. While inside I ran into Jim Higgins, the CEO of Dean Witter. A real great and gregarious Irishman. He remembered me from a few years prior when I went to the US Senior Open at Ridgewood Country Club in New Jersey that we also sponsored and I met him for the first time in the hospitality tent there.

We spent some time talking and he found out I drove all the way from New Jersey.

I went back out on the course to watch more golf along with my buddy for most of the day.

We came back to the hospitality tent and Jim Higgins was still inside mingling with many corporate guests of Dean Witter and the PGA.

He came up to me after a short time and asked me: "Do you have your clubs with you? Tomorrow everyone still here will be playing one hole with Jack Nicklaus and we have a bunch of openings. If you are interested you can play and I will let your office manager know."

I was dumbfounded and he said to let him know soon.

My buddy, who became a big SVP at Raymond James for over 30 years, was just in a new relationship with his girlfriend, who is now his wife and mother of his kids. He said he needed to get back to NJ and couldn't stay and also had to work.

I wish I told him to take my car and I would fly or he could fly back.

Instead I told Jim Higgins I couldn't stay.

So this stupid **** writing this post turned down the chance to play a hole of golf with Jack Nicklaus.

Later in life I had to cancel a round at Pebble Beach with another buddy due to Vertigo and my ear needing to have a large bunch of wax and hair off my eardrum due to extreme pain. He never let me live it down. Neither of us ever played Pebble Beach.

I did get a blowjob from an ex-girlfriend while driving home from Pebble Beach in 2002 after drinks in the clubhouse but it hardly makes up for not playing Pebble Beach.

R.I.P. Jim Higgins - a great guy who passed almost a decade ago.
https://www.vanemburgh.com/obituary/3942085

No Ashley Madison stories?

[BWillie]

Originally Posted by Bump

I would have ate nothing but eggs and steak back in my early 20's when I was in extremely good shape. I would have been chiseled if I ate right but I ate out at restaurants a lot and didn't eat enough protein to get those gains that I thought I should have been getting. Every day was an hour lifting and a few hours playing basketball. I still looked good but I could have looked a lot better if I ate nothing but protein and fat (from meat).

I used to be a pumping iron bro in my late teens and 20s. All my meathead buddies told me to eat as much protein as possible and eat clean. Avoid bad carbs and alot of carbs. I busted my ass. Cooked grilled steak, chicken, ate brown rice. Whey protein shakes. Eat healthy carbs if you do eat carbs. Awful gains.

Then I said **** it. Imma just eat as much as I can. Stopped worrying about protein. Stopped with the shakes. Pounded McDonalds McChickens. Ate Peanut Butter outta the jar plain. Mac and cheese. Donuts and fried chicken. Basically anything I could pound calories as quick as possible and bam. Huge gains. Looked great.

The ectomorphic life chose me.

[cripple creek]

I'd of skipped the whole stroke thing

[George Liquor]

I probably should have had kids earlier in life... but I'm not going to say I wish I would have because I would have a completely different set of demons running around my house destroying shit I just cleaned up.

I also should have left my miserable, soul crushing job 10 years earlier or kept my Magic cards that are now worth a god damn fortune.

Hindsight is 20/20 though and my life isn't too bad as it is currently constructed.

[threebag]

Wish my mom and dad lived longer. Spent more time with my Grandparents instead of working all the time.

[RedRaider56]

Should never have married my 1st wife. Fell into the whole "Love is Blind" pit and got T-boned when she told me she wanted a divorce.

I was in a dark place for about 18 months and finally pulled myself back together and got on with life.

[DJJasonp]

two things come to mind:

1) wouldnt have left college to chase a girl

2) I wish I was as inquisitive about my grandparents' life back then, than I am now (when it's too late. My grandfather was in WW2 and was on-site and witnessed Mussolini being hung. While I don't think he liked to talk about it too much, it would have been nice to have some conversations about what he experienced.

[Titty Meat]

I'd make my dick bigger

[threebag]

Originally Posted by Titty Meat

I'd make my dick bigger

Just play with it

[InChiefsHeaven]

As has been mentioned, regardless of the good, bad or ugly in my life, to change any of it would absolutely mean I am not who I am today. Like most people, I have real regrets in life, real pains inflicted by me on others, and also on me by others. It hurts sometimes to revisit these moments in my head, and even in cases where I have been injured but forgave the person, it still hurts. Maybe it's supposed to. It reminds us all that our sins are never personal, and our actions have consequences that are way beyond ourselves.

In any case, I love my life that I have now. I have regrets, but I take solace in the knowledge that those pains were part of a past which has brought me to this present...and this has been a great life so far.

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by threebag

Just play with it

You wanna help me?

[Coochie liquor]

Originally Posted by Titty Meat

I'd make my dick bigger

I’ve never heard of micro penis’ growing. You’re stuck with that clit sized dong!!

[Pepe Silvia]

Originally Posted by BWillie

I used to be a pumping iron bro in my late teens and 20s. All my meathead buddies told me to eat as much protein as possible and eat clean. Avoid bad carbs and alot of carbs. I busted my ass. Cooked grilled steak, chicken, ate brown rice. Whey protein shakes. Eat healthy carbs if you do eat carbs. Awful gains.

Then I said **** it. Imma just eat as much as I can. Stopped worrying about protein. Stopped with the shakes. Pounded McDonalds McChickens. Ate Peanut Butter outta the jar plain. Mac and cheese. Donuts and fried chicken. Basically anything I could pound calories as quick as possible and bam. Huge gains. Looked great.

The ectomorphic life chose me.

McChickens rule.

[ThaVirus]

I mentioned some things in the other thread but the major things I’d change if given the opportunity are purely financial.

First off, I’d have bought a house prior to 2021. Really wish I wasn’t such a puss and found a way to make that work. I balked because “Well what if I get a job offer in another city?” “What if I regret it?” “What if, what if, what if..”. Houses I had my eye on were going for $290k at 3.5% in 2019 and now the same houses are going for $550k at 7.5%.

Another thing is that I wish I’d have gotten into investing earlier. From the early 2010s until the early 2020s I didn’t invest a cent. I saved well and felt good about how safe that was, but I was ignorant and didn’t realize 1) inflation was eating up my savings as quickly as it went to my account and 2) I was missing out on major gains. It looks like the S&P500 has just about quadrupled since I graduated college. I missed out on the majority of that growth.

[Pepe Silvia]

I wish I could go back in time and stop Doc from getting killed.