Relationship Problem

[RustShack]

Say you've been with a girl for awhile, and your about to move in together. She goes to the bars with a few friends once every week or two and doesn't like you to come with. Her friend meets a guy and they start hanging out with his friends, and after a few weeks your girlfriend is going to a movie alone with one of the friends but she says its "just as friends". What would you do or think?

[Redrum_69]

Originally Posted by RustShack

Say you've been with a girl for awhile, and your about to move in together. She goes to the bars with a few friends once every week or two and doesn't like you to come with. Her friend meets a guy and they start hanging out with his friends, and after a few weeks your girlfriend is going to a movie alone with one of the friends but she says its "just as friends". What would you do or think?

do you own a gun?

brandishing a gun sometimes brings out the whole truth from people....

[Iowanian]

1. You aren't even in the neighborhood of being ready to live together.

2. my guess is the prospect of that is making her nervous and tapped her inner-hooker button.

I've had girls that were friends before...but they were my pal's gal. This dude has intentions of touching her cervix, and she's receptive if she's going to movies with him.

Don't be jealous or mad, just move on.

[Pioli Zombie]

Ask her if she would mind if you had a hot tub party with 2 of her friends. "Just as friends".
As someone who has been screwed over a few times.
Dump her.
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[luv]

If I was moving in with a guy....

1. I wouldn't be going to the movies alone with another guy, especially one my man hasn't met.

2. I wouldn't be hanging out with a group of guys at a bar without my man there. A girl's night is one thing. If her single friend wants to go man hunting, she should not be taking your woman as her wing woman.

Do not go out with another chick "to see how she likes it". That's petty, immature bullshit. Tell her you don't like her going out with other people you haven't met yet. It's one thing if you're just dating, but it's different if the two of you are getting ready to move in with each other. If she doesn't want you meeting her friends, tell her to take a hike.

[Pioli Zombie]

Can't stand playas
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[stumppy]

I can't believe you are even asking. You know wtf is going on and you know wtf you should do about it.
I think the reason you posted this is because you got it bad for this chick and you're hoping that maybe just maybe someone on here might post something that will allow you to reason all this out so that you don't have to face the truth. It ain't gonna happen.
The first thing you need to do is get her purse away from her so you can dig through it and find your balls. The next thing is tell her straight up 'It's my way or the highway'.

No, don't even bother with trying to set things straight. The whole thing about her going out with her friends and not wanting you around is her way of getting time away from you so she can still act like she's single. I've got $50 that says she's screwed around on you before and got away with it. Now all she's doing is trying to make it easier to get some strange peter. She probably thinks if she can get you to puss out about her going to the movies with the new meat then she'll be able to screw around anytime she wants.

Man up ! Take her out one last time, get her liquored up, poke her in the but and dump her the next day.

[Sure-Oz]

I wouldnt' move in right now with her, and there is no reason she should not want you to come do things with her. Going out with a guy to a movie she just met is BS...

figure out wtf she wants, but it doesn't sound good. It'd be diff. if it was a friend shes known for awhile.

remember do NOT move in together, no matter what!

[suds79]

Originally Posted by RustShack

Say you've been with a girl for awhile, and your about to move in together. She goes to the bars with a few friends once every week or two and doesn't like you to come with. Her friend meets a guy and they start hanging out with his friends, and after a few weeks your girlfriend is going to a movie alone with one of the friends but she says its "just as friends". What would you do or think?

I'm sure I'm late in getting in with this.

But your problems began with with your girlfriend going to the bars with her friends and not including you.

"Honey? Yeah I'm going out to the meat market with my girls but you shouldn't come along."

I know it's different when you're dating (thank God I'm married now) but IMO when you're with someone, you should protect the relationship by not being "Just friends" of someone of the opposite sex where you guys would just hang out.... Just leaves open the possibility of going astray.

[steve_minor]

You need to confront her without sounding like a jealous physco. This is not in the receipe for a healthy long term relationship. She can still be friends with him, but has to start including you. Good Luck!!!

[Iowanian]

Reach down to the patch of flesh under your urination device. Shake the magic 8 balls and see what they tell you.

I disagree with those that have a problem with her going out with her girlfriends to bars. Once in a while, going out with the girls is HEALTHY for a healthy relationship. If she's loyal, it won't hurt a damn thing. When new dicks start swinging around, thats a sign of trouble that doesn't need a Bat-light to be seen.

The fact that you're posting this, tells me your caveman instinct is that something is going on. Unless this isn't the entire truth, its time to blow that tugboat out of the water.

If it will help your decision, I guess you could smell her belly for Old Spice and stanky-semen after the movie.

[Delano]

[Sure-Oz]

Definetly agree with going out with her friends to do stuff is just fine, but the wanting to go to a movie with a dude she met recently is the BS part...

My gf goes out with her friends here and there and we dont do everything together, but we are clear that we can trust each other, your case seems very much the opposite esp since you are asking

[luv]

Originally Posted by Sure-Oz

Definetly agree with going out with her friends to do stuff is just fine, but the wanting to go to a movie with a dude she met recently is the BS part...

My gf goes out with her friends here and there and we dont do everything together, but we are clear that we can trust each other, your case seems very much the opposite esp since you are asking

This. Going out without you is fine, as I'm sure there are things you want to do without her. But there are clearly a lot of lines being crossed that shouldn't be. She should know your friends, and you should know hers, regardless of whether you go out with them or not.

[stumppy]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

Reach down to the patch of flesh under your urination device. Shake the magic 8 balls and see what they tell you.

I disagree with those that have a problem with her going out with her girlfriends to bars. Once in a while, going out with the girls is HEALTHY for a healthy relationship. If she's loyal, it won't hurt a damn thing. When new dicks start swinging around, thats a sign of trouble that doesn't need a Bat-light to be seen.

The fact that you're posting this, tells me your caveman instinct is that something is going on. Unless this isn't the entire truth, its time to blow that tugboat out of the water.

If it will help your decision, I guess you could smell her belly for Old Spice and stanky-semen after the movie.

I agree with you about letting them off the leash to run with the girls every now and then. There's nothing at all wrong with that. But I don't think that's the situation here. He didn't say she was going out with the girls. He said it was with friends. Betcha $500 casino cash it's a mixed bunch. And I'll bet she's doing as much sniffing around as the swinging dicks in the group are.

[El Jefe]

RustShack, get right brother, cut your losses.