Relationship Problem - Page 2

RustShack · 04-16-2009, 12:19 AM

Say you've been with a girl for awhile, and your about to move in together. She goes to the bars with a few friends once every week or two and doesn't like you to come with. Her friend meets a guy and they start hanging out with his friends, and after a few weeks your girlfriend is going to a movie alone with one of the friends but she says its "just as friends". What would you do or think?

KCChiefsMan · 04-16-2009, 12:51 AM

ya dude. I wouldn't care for that too much, I would text message break up with her right now.

Jenson71 · 04-16-2009, 12:52 AM

I'd say "**** that" and make her say she wants to be with me and won't do it again, or end it.

Pablo · 04-16-2009, 12:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiefsCountry

Mistake #1 moving in together or thinking about it.

THIS x 10,000.

Don't ruin your independence until you're married and you absolutely have to. Living by yourself, and being able to sleep in a bed by yourself should be treasured.

Pablo · 04-16-2009, 12:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Jenson71

end it.

FYP.

There's no "don't do it again".

Either you have the cheater mentality or you don't, it's pretty simple. You're the type of person that will or won't fool around on your significant other. If you do it once, 99% of cases suggest you'll do it again.

My buddy has been married for like 2 years. He's banged probably 12 girls since he got married. They both used to cheat on each other all the time. I'm not sure how many dudes she's ****ed since they've gotten married, but I'm sure the cheater mentality didn't just vacate her mind altogether once she got a ring.

Abba-Dabba · 04-16-2009, 12:59 AM

You're getting played. Simple as that. Don't move in, just move on.

PastorMikH · 04-16-2009, 01:11 AM

I'm pretty much with the consensus on this one. I'd have to draw a line with her on this one and let her know that one woman and one man at a movie is a date - even if they are "friends" and she needs to choose if she wants me in her life or not. If she insists on going, she's made her choice.

I'll add in that I'd probably have a talk with the dude too. Sometimes you just have to draw a line and let the guy know where things stand.

Dr where my wife worked quite a while back was a bit of a player. He never made a direct hit on the wife, but there were times when she said he would invade her personal space, put a hand on her shoulder (not around her, but pat the shoulder closest to him) or try to give her a back rub and such. She had told me this would make her really uncomfortable. We'd interacted with he and his wife as couples and he and I had hunted some, been to his house, seen his karate pics and such. One day we're out hunting. While out, I take the opportunity to point out to him that if I ever had reason to believe that a guy was making a move on my wife, preacher or not, it wouldn't matter if the guy had a gun, knife, or black belt in karate I'd beat the crap out of him. He kinda turned white, gulped, and changed the subject.

He kept a professional distance from that point forward though, and we were still able to remain friends. The wife didn't know until just a year or two ago when I finally told her about our talk.

Mecca · 04-16-2009, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by GonzoRox88

THIS x 10,000.

Don't ruin your independence until you're married and you absolutely have to. Living by yourself, and being able to sleep in a bed by yourself should be treasured.

Oh cmon you got a neckbeard what do you know?

Mecca · 04-16-2009, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by GonzoRox88

FYP.

There's no "don't do it again".

Either you have the cheater mentality or you don't, it's pretty simple. You're the type of person that will or won't fool around on your significant other. If you do it once, 99% of cases suggest you'll do it again.

My buddy has been married for like 2 years. He's banged probably 12 girls since he got married. They both used to cheat on each other all the time. I'm not sure how many dudes she's ****ed since they've gotten married, but I'm sure the cheater mentality didn't just vacate her mind altogether once she got a ring.

That just sounds like an open marriage to me!

T-post Tom · 04-16-2009, 01:13 AM

You're getting played. Women don't go to movies with guys they've only recently met because they want to "be friends." She's either cheating or forming a "backup plan" because she's unsure of your relationship. Her dishonesty is definately an indication of her character.

Pablo · 04-16-2009, 01:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

Oh cmon you got a neckbeard what do you know?

My neckbeard knows that having a bathroom free of stupid ass curling irons and body lotions is kick-ass.

And then I can shave that neckbeard over the sink and nobody will bitch about me not cleaning up the mess asap.

Mecca · 04-16-2009, 01:16 AM

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Originally Posted by GonzoRox88

My neckbeard knows that having a bathroom free of stupid ass curling irons and body lotions is kick-ass.

And then I can shave that neckbeard over the sink and nobody will bitch about me not cleaning up the mess asap.

LOL...I actually clean the sink after I shave and all of that, my mom is a heavy neatfreak so growing up with that you just did it because you didn't wanna be killed in your sleep.

Pablo · 04-16-2009, 01:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

LOL...I actually clean the sink after I shave and all of that, my mom is a heavy neatfreak so growing up with that you just did it because you didn't wanna be killed in your sleep.

Yeah, I was raised in a house with myself, my brother and my dad.

Our bathrooms were fucking hideous. Just atrociously disgusting at times.

I keep my apartment clean, but fuck, I grow a thick Kyle Orton neckbeard and sometimes I miss some of the hair...

acesn8s · 04-16-2009, 01:18 AM

Poke her in the butt and take a picture of her while doing it.

At least when it's over you will always have that.

Mecca · 04-16-2009, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by GonzoRox88

Yeah, I was raised in a house with myself, my brother and my dad.

Our bathrooms were fucking hideous. Just atrociously disgusting at times.

I keep my apartment clean, but fuck, I grow a thick Kyle Orton neckbeard and sometimes I miss some of the hair...

Why don't you grow a real beard you know like me?

Pablo · 04-16-2009, 01:20 AM

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Originally Posted by acesn8s

Poke her in the butt and take a picture of her while doing it.

At least when it's over you will always have that.

And then make copies and get a frame that says Daddy's little girl or something like that and let it miraculously find it's way to her dad's mailbox.

Oh, and posts pics on CP as well.

04-16-2009, 12:19 AM
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04-16-2009, 12:51 AM	#16
KCChiefsMan AIC Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: West Roxbury, MA Casino cash: $10004900	ya dude. I wouldn't care for that too much, I would text message break up with her right now.
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04-16-2009, 12:59 AM	#20
Abba-Dabba MVP Join Date: May 2001 Casino cash: $4062970	You're getting played. Simple as that. Don't move in, just move on.
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04-16-2009, 01:11 AM	#21
PastorMikH Will KC ever be better? Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Land of Red Dirt & Necks Casino cash: $9925087	I'm pretty much with the consensus on this one. I'd have to draw a line with her on this one and let her know that one woman and one man at a movie is a date - even if they are "friends" and she needs to choose if she wants me in her life or not. If she insists on going, she's made her choice. I'll add in that I'd probably have a talk with the dude too. Sometimes you just have to draw a line and let the guy know where things stand. Dr where my wife worked quite a while back was a bit of a player. He never made a direct hit on the wife, but there were times when she said he would invade her personal space, put a hand on her shoulder (not around her, but pat the shoulder closest to him) or try to give her a back rub and such. She had told me this would make her really uncomfortable. We'd interacted with he and his wife as couples and he and I had hunted some, been to his house, seen his karate pics and such. One day we're out hunting. While out, I take the opportunity to point out to him that if I ever had reason to believe that a guy was making a move on my wife, preacher or not, it wouldn't matter if the guy had a gun, knife, or black belt in karate I'd beat the crap out of him. He kinda turned white, gulped, and changed the subject. He kept a professional distance from that point forward though, and we were still able to remain friends. The wife didn't know until just a year or two ago when I finally told her about our talk. __________________
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04-16-2009, 01:13 AM	#24
T-post Tom Threepeat! Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Milk/Honey/Gazland Casino cash: $3267293	You're getting played. Women don't go to movies with guys they've only recently met because they want to "be friends." She's either cheating or forming a "backup plan" because she's unsure of your relationship. Her dishonesty is definately an indication of her character. __________________ You seem nice!
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04-16-2009, 01:18 AM	#28
acesn8s MVP Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Here Casino cash: $10007119	Poke her in the butt and take a picture of her while doing it. At least when it's over you will always have that. __________________ Let's not take another 50 years.
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