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I don’t recall saying anything about an age requirement for marriage that somehow makes a marriage work. I do recall saying something about considering marriage while unemployed and living with your parents. To me, those would pose the larger issues. If you are young and able to care for yourself, then go ahead and take on responsibility for another life and possibly more lives if you have kids. Marriages present and fail in a lot of different forms. However, I think anyone who is thinking clearly understands when it is even possible to consider marriage and when it should be out of the question. |
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02-21-2005, 12:01 AM | #154 | |
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My apologies. At this point, I don't remember which one of the "don't get married 'til your 30" posts I meant to quote. Sorry 'bout that, my post still stands in referenc to 80% of the posts on this thread, just not yours! |
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02-21-2005, 12:03 AM | #155 |
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Thats cool, I pretty much just felt like fighting with someone tonight and that was there.
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02-21-2005, 12:07 AM | #156 | |
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That's why I spent an hour or so in the DC forum today. I try not too, but if you feel like talking some smaque, it's a great release! I may be a dick, but when I make a mistake (in other words something I can't cover up or explain away), I'll admit it. |
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02-21-2005, 12:12 AM | #157 | |
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Basically, if you start out at a high spot and either stay up there or even increase your standings, then the whole family would be hit dangerously hard when things get bad. One who wants success needs to learn what it's like to be near rock bottom...needs to know how to climb out of that situation. Starting a marriage at rock bottom would be tough, but would be a lot more lasting once the couple climbs out of that low position. |
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02-21-2005, 12:16 AM | #158 | |
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You just said something that I totally agree with. I think the world must be coming to an end. The wife and I went to hell and back the first few years, but our relationship has now been forged in the hottest fires known to god and man. |
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02-21-2005, 12:16 AM | #159 | |
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That is possibly one way to look at it but I tend to think if you start out at the bottom and fail to achieve, it's going to get ugly. If everything goes well, then it's likely you'd have two people who have survived a lot and can handle whatever life throws at their marriage. Unfortunately, the reality is that most relationships would probably blow up long before that point was ever reached. Well I should I say in my situation, there is only so much I have been willing to overcome before I would gladly write the whole deal off before becoming further vested. Every meaningful relationship has it's conflicts and problems but some relationships have much more challenging circumstances and greater risks. It's all about the people in the relationship, but if one or both of those people arent disciplined enough to get a job and move out of your parents' home... fill in the blanks when it comes to overcoming serious conflict in a relationship. |
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I think relationships fail for a variety of reasons; it's too hard to pinpoint exactly which ones are more prevalent but I tend to agree with that assessment.
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02-21-2005, 12:37 AM | #163 | |
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As for the part about being disciplined, I can only agree to a small extent. If the marriage was a right marriage and founded on the right basis, then what discipline a person had before doesn't matter. For instance, if a person was extrodinarily lazy and was all of a sudden able to get up at three in the morning every day to work on a loading dock for 15 hours simply because that person was motivated enough by just being able to see one other person literally for one second a month, then there's one helluva good chance that that marriage was founded completely correctly. |
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I can only say I personally am not interested in motivating somebody to get up every morning and get a job, then pushing that person to go to that job every day. That doesnt interest me at all and I suspect it doesnt interest most people. The other problem with that, is this mentality carries over into other areas of that person's life. For whatever reason if a person is unwilling to work and earn a living on their own, they arent going to handle a lot of the other necessary business in their life. Talk about baggage... Sure there always exceptions, but I would prefer to stick with the example available to us and for that matter what most people in that situation typically manage to do. Hopefully by the time a person is ready to consider marriage or even a serious relationship, they have come to terms with the fact that they cannot sit on their ass all day and mooch off of their parents. |
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