Is it possible to have a best friend who is the opposite sex?

[El Jefe]

I have pondered this, and I think it is virtually impossible. I have had 3 girls who I would consider best friends at points in my life, but all 3 came to a crashing end. They eventually came to a part where they wanted a dating relationship and I did not. I think for a guy to have a girl who is their best friend, the guy either has to be gay or the girl has to be married for it to work. At least in the kind of girls I deal with.

The most recent was a girl I posted about on here last year, we had known each other since we were kids. We dated for a couple of months while she was in her senior year. Then I cut it off when she went to college, and I thought things were cool. We were best friends up until this year, she has had a boyfriend for the last 5 years, and we were fine. Now that I have a girlfriend, she actually told me I either choose to date my current girlfriend or her friendship. So I chose to date this girl, and we have not spoke since, and I never saw it coming, she completely changed once I found somebody. I couldn't have cared less when she got a boyfriend, but apparently when we agreed to just be friends she still deep down wanted something more.

Anyone have any thoughts on this, Im sure it will change as the age group of the girls I am around continue to grow older each year. All of these girls except one are in college still FTR.

[shyguyms]

Originally Posted by BuckinKaeding

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[jidar]

Anything is possible, but it sure as shit isn't likely.

[ziggysocki]

Originally Posted by jidar

So....

The word "best" then doesn't mean that much to you.

'Best' alone could just as easily mean 'best right now' as 'best ever'. Your 'best friend' I think generally means your best friend 'right now'. I mean, was is your best friend from 10 years ago still your best friend? How about from high school? As a kid?

[ziggysocki]

That said, I gotta go with no.

[SPATCH]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

You've slept in the same bed? What is that about? I've had a lot of friends in my life, and I've never slept in the same bed with any of them, male or female. Yeah, maybe on a band trip we had to go two to a bed, but that was a budget decision by the band director. That wasn't my call. But even then they were guys. How the heck were you sleeping in the same bed with a female friend? And I'm sorry, but friend or not I'm going to have to penalize you major points for doing that and not making a move. That's unacceptable manly behavior right there.

Typically, it's because one or both of us is completely shitfaced and needs a place to pass out.

I don't try to hook up with her for three reasons:

1. Sex would undoubtedly ruin our friendship.
2. I've never been that sexually frustrated/desperate to try it.
3. I am currently living in the oasis of beautiful women known as Texas State University... Endless amounts of "other fish in the sea" (As I stated in an earlier post, the girls I typically have sex with are more attractive than she is.)


I know many of you are the most sexually frustrated mother ****ers known to man and this whole thing is hard for you to wrap your minds around.

[ziggysocki]

Steers and Queers...

[jidar]

Originally Posted by ziggysocki

'Best' alone could just as easily mean 'best right now' as 'best ever'. Your 'best friend' I think generally means your best friend 'right now'. I mean, was is your best friend from 10 years ago still your best friend? How about from high school? As a kid?

That's not what he said. He's got "best friend at work" and "best friend at laundromat" and all that shit in there.
It's a thread about best friends, not good friends.

[jidar]

Originally Posted by the_spatula

Typically, it's because one or both of us is completely shitfaced and needs a place to pass out.

I don't try to hook up with her for three reasons:

1. Sex would undoubtedly ruin our friendship.
2. I've never been that sexually frustrated/desperate to try it.
3. I am currently living in the oasis of beautiful women known as Texas State University... Endless amounts of "other fish in the sea" (As I stated in an earlier post, the girls I typically have sex with are more attractive than she is.)


I know many of you are the most sexually frustrated mother ****ers known to man and this whole thing is hard for you to wrap your minds around.

Ooohhhh you're in college. Okay so this all makes sense now. You're still too young so you don't know shit about anything.

[Lumpy]

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by jidar

So....

The word "best" then doesn't mean that much to you.

"Best friend" to me implies present tense. I've got people who I would lift a car off of, but I see them once every two years. That's different than a person I'm having lunch with every day and chatting with.

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by jidar

That's not what he said. He's got "best friend at work" and "best friend at laundromat" and all that shit in there.
It's a thread about best friends, not good friends.

What I meant to say is that I have a best friend at any given time, but it's a person with whom I have daily contact and common activities. And being married, my wife trumps all best friends. So therefore, my best friends are probably on a more shallow level than the best friends of single people, because I go home to the wife every night.

[Bearcat]

Originally Posted by the_spatula

I know many of you are the most sexually frustrated mother ****ers known to man and this whole thing is hard for you to wrap your minds around.

Well, we all know that 99% of Chiefsplanet males were the star QB in high school, prom king, voted most likely to be accepted into beautifulpeople.com, and f***ed every beautiful woman at their college and the 3 closest schools... twice. They're so used to looking down to find a vagina or a mouth wrapped around their penis, they couldn't imagine how it's not an inevitable occurrence for every other person on the planet.


yeah, I need to get laid, stfu


Seriously though, my female friends are some of the smartest people I know, and without mutual interest one way or the other, we're not going to ruin the friendship because we aren't mature enough. I don't get why so many people say it's impossible.

[ziggysocki]

Originally Posted by jidar

That's not what he said. He's got "best friend at work" and "best friend at laundromat" and all that shit in there.
It's a thread about best friends, not good friends.

I quote "These people were definitely my best friends at the time" at the time being the key phrase. Listen Dr. Cooper, I know in your mind best means one and only one... but us humans hang out a little more in the gray.

[el borracho]

Sex must just have different meaning for some of you than it has for me. I've probably had sex more than 1,000 times (all with women, thank you very much); on some occasions it has been literally unbelievable and there have been some occasions I wish I could take back but it has always been better when there is that inexplicable chemistry. I'm not sure why everyone is having fits over the idea of sharing a bed and not fooling around. I've slept in the same bed with women on multiple occasions and not had sex (sometimes my choice, sometimes theirs, sometimes mutual) and the decision wasn't always based on how attractive they were.

[UteChief]

My best friend is a chick but she's married. I think if one of you isn't hitched then someone in the relationship will always want more.