Is it possible to have a best friend who is the opposite sex?

[El Jefe]

I have pondered this, and I think it is virtually impossible. I have had 3 girls who I would consider best friends at points in my life, but all 3 came to a crashing end. They eventually came to a part where they wanted a dating relationship and I did not. I think for a guy to have a girl who is their best friend, the guy either has to be gay or the girl has to be married for it to work. At least in the kind of girls I deal with.

The most recent was a girl I posted about on here last year, we had known each other since we were kids. We dated for a couple of months while she was in her senior year. Then I cut it off when she went to college, and I thought things were cool. We were best friends up until this year, she has had a boyfriend for the last 5 years, and we were fine. Now that I have a girlfriend, she actually told me I either choose to date my current girlfriend or her friendship. So I chose to date this girl, and we have not spoke since, and I never saw it coming, she completely changed once I found somebody. I couldn't have cared less when she got a boyfriend, but apparently when we agreed to just be friends she still deep down wanted something more.

Anyone have any thoughts on this, Im sure it will change as the age group of the girls I am around continue to grow older each year. All of these girls except one are in college still FTR.

[EyePod]

If they're really ugly, then yes.

But seriously the hard part is when there's other people involved. I know I wouldn't love it if my fiancé was hanging out with the same guy all the time. And I don't think I'm being ridiculous about it either....

[Valiant]

Originally Posted by EyePod

If they're really ugly, then yes.

But seriously the hard part is when there's other people involved. I know I wouldn't love it if my fiancé was hanging out with the same guy all the time. And I don't think I'm being ridiculous about it either....

If you are not attracted at all to them and vice versa, then yeah.. If they are attractive at all, then no..

[Dartgod]

Bitches are crazy.


The End

[Hammock Parties]

luv is my best friend

we are platonic lovers

we share all our secrets

[FAX]

I've had a very similar experience, Mr. kcchiefsfanGoJC, and have concluded that it is, in fact, impossible for a female "best friend" or "good friend" relationship to remain Platonic. I think it has to do with spending time together. Eventually, something happens. It always does.

FAX

[El Jefe]

Originally Posted by FAX

I've had a very similar experience, Mr. kcchiefsfanGoJC, and have concluded that it is, in fact, impossible for a female "best friend" or "good friend" relationship to remain Platonic. I think it has to do with spending time together. Eventually, something happens. It always does.

FAX

I agree.

[SPATCH]

One of my closest friends is a girl. She's awesome. She has the most masculine line of thinking of any girl that I've ever met, and she has an incredible sense of humor. She happens to be very attractive, too. We became very close friends four years ago and I can't tell you how many times we've slept in the same bed, yet we've never been intimate. It is a 100% platonic relationship.

Countless people have informed me on how strange they think our relationship is... and I always tell them that I completely agree. It's strange as shit. I never saw it coming/didn't think it was possible either.

[JD10367]

Originally Posted by the_spatula

One of my closest friends is a girl. She's awesome. She has the most masculine line of thinking of any girl that I've ever met, and she has an incredible sense of humor. She happens to be very attractive, too. We became very close friends four years ago and I can't tell you how many times we've slept in the same bed, yet we've never been intimate. It is a 100% platonic relationship.

Countless people have informed me on how strange they think our relationship is... and I always tell them that I completely agree. It strange as shit. I never saw coming/didn't think it was possible either.

#1: you sure you're not gay?

#2: pics of her, please.

[SPATCH]

Originally Posted by JD10367

#1: you sure you're not gay?

#2: pics of her, please.

How can I say this without sounding like an arrogant asshole?

I have dated a lot of different girls since I have met her. I don't want to say that I date girls that are better looking than she is, but I would have to say that they are.

However, even when I have been single, we haven't ever done anything intimate or had serious talks about dating eachother. She's a different kind of girl, to be honest; I can't really explain it. She's like a mix between Mary from "There's Something About Mary" and Sarah Silverman. But, neither of us are sexually attracted to one another.

Her and I like to blame our peculiar "platonic-ness" on a cosmic happening; we were born on the exact same day in history (star-crossed non-lovers).

Sidenote: You should have seen us the night we both turned 21. Complete shit show.

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by the_spatula

One of my closest friends is a girl. She's awesome. She has the most masculine line of thinking of any girl that I've ever met, and she has an incredible sense of humor. She happens to be very attractive, too. We became very close friends four years ago and I can't tell you how many times we've slept in the same bed, yet we've never been intimate. It is a 100% platonic relationship.

Countless people have informed me on how strange they think our relationship is... and I always tell them that I completely agree. It strange as shit. I never saw coming/didn't think it was possible either.

You've slept in the same bed? What is that about? I've had a lot of friends in my life, and I've never slept in the same bed with any of them, male or female. Yeah, maybe on a band trip we had to go two to a bed, but that was a budget decision by the band director. That wasn't my call. But even then they were guys. How the heck were you sleeping in the same bed with a female friend? And I'm sorry, but friend or not I'm going to have to penalize you major points for doing that and not making a move. That's unacceptable manly behavior right there.

[SPATCH]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

You've slept in the same bed? What is that about? I've had a lot of friends in my life, and I've never slept in the same bed with any of them, male or female. Yeah, maybe on a band trip we had to go two to a bed, but that was a budget decision by the band director. That wasn't my call. But even then they were guys. How the heck were you sleeping in the same bed with a female friend? And I'm sorry, but friend or not I'm going to have to penalize you major points for doing that and not making a move. That's unacceptable manly behavior right there.

Typically, it's because one or both of us is completely shitfaced and needs a place to pass out.

I don't try to hook up with her for three reasons:

1. Sex would undoubtedly ruin our friendship.
2. I've never been that sexually frustrated/desperate to try it.
3. I am currently living in the oasis of beautiful women known as Texas State University... Endless amounts of "other fish in the sea" (As I stated in an earlier post, the girls I typically have sex with are more attractive than she is.)


I know many of you are the most sexually frustrated mother ****ers known to man and this whole thing is hard for you to wrap your minds around.

[CCU2000]

Originally Posted by the_spatula

One of my closest friends is a girl. She's awesome. She has the most masculine line of thinking of any girl that I've ever met, and she has an incredible sense of humor. She happens to be very attractive, too. We became very close friends four years ago and I can't tell you how many times we've slept in the same bed, yet we've never been intimate. It is a 100% platonic relationship.

Countless people have informed me on how strange they think our relationship is... and I always tell them that I completely agree. It's strange as shit. I never saw coming/didn't think it was possible either.

you are *****in gay, please cut your dick off, you have no use for it.

[Tactical Funky]

Originally Posted by FAX

I've had a very similar experience, Mr. kcchiefsfanGoJC, and have concluded that it is, in fact, impossible for a female "best friend" or "good friend" relationship to remain Platonic. I think it has to do with spending time together. Eventually, something happens. It always does.

FAX

Yep. It's happened to me every single time. Sex is typically great, but when things get awkward...

[stlchiefs]

no