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Actually, my current best friend is a young woman.
But, our situation is really weird, and I never expected her to become my best friend.
First of all, my closet friend is someone I met online. I never expected her to become a good friend.
Second,for years, I never actually met her in person.
Third, there's a big age gap between us, which probably explains how we stayed "just friends" + the never actually meeting one another.
But, basically we just chatted online, then she starts calling me. Soon afterward, I helped her solve two large problems 1) how to deal with a stalker guy who wouldn't leave her alone (I walked her through getting a court order) and 2) she had a serious health scare which happened to fall within my father's medical specialty (a medical problem my father says is actually a very difficult one to handle in terms of "bedside manner" with a young female patient).
After that, I basically became her no. 1 person for ANY kind of advice. In a way, asking me about a problem became a security blanket for her. She'd ask me about how to deal with b/f, work problems, her family problems EVERYTHiNG.
Recently, for the first time, neither one of us does has a SO and I actually met her.
A couple of things became readily apparent: 1) I had seen pictures and they were definately attractive, but I always took them with the "internet caveat". Well....actually meeting her...I was quite surprised to see that those pictures SHORTCHANGED her, if anything and 2) if we actually spent much time around each other, in person, it sure as hell wouldn't stay platonic.
Consequently, I'm not sure you can really call us "best friends" or more like "f*** buddies in abeyance".
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