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I'm by no means a Don Juan but I had a few cool girlfriends in my day. You can take my advice if you want, but I've had girl problems too.
Less is more, totally. More instinct, less thinking and planning. Don't talk a lot, or try real hard, just chill out. And listen instead of talk. Women will tell you EVERY single thing about them (more than you want to know, lol) within about 2 minutes of meeting them--with their eyes, hands, legs, clothes, tone of voice, etc. Just listen and only talk when you need to.
The more you want, the more you don't get. The more you don't care, the more they come after you.