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I'd say it's not a simple cut-and-dried thing. If you're comfortable with who you are and how you look, then you'll be comfortable with someone else accepting you. And, on the other hand, it's not shallow, to me, if someone else feels the same way about my appearance that I do.
In any case, I never said looks are number 1. My only point is that it isn't shallow for looks to be on the list, whether it's 1, 2, 5 or 250. Looks are part of the package, and I do think, in a lot of cases, looks are a reflection of other facets. As in I look the way I do because of who I am; it's a result of underlying factors.
As for 'no matter what their size', well...god no. There are limits, and I have no problem saying that. Let's say for the sake of argument that there's a 450-pound woman with the greatest personality in history. It's not going to change the fact that she's 450 pounds, and I don't ever want to see a 450-pound woman naked. End of story.
And I have no problem at all if a 150 pound woman looks at me and thinks the exact same thing about a 250-pound guy.
Lest we forget, a woman with a body carved by god herself could have the voice of a hag or the laugh of a hyena or the brain of a 40-pound rock. I don't think it's shallow for any of those things to be turnoffs either.
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