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Originally Posted by patteeu
But yet, you're not dating a fatty.
It's all well and good to encourage luv to recognize the good things about herself and to accept that which she cannot change, but it's good to be realistic about the superficiality of the world too and to the extent that she can make herself attractive, it's good to put some effort into it.
She should brush her hair even if she's still a good person when her hair is a mess. She needs to put some effort into dressing nice instead of dressing down to the least acceptable level even if she's the same person either way. And if she's overweight (as opposed to having an unrealistic mental image of herself, like your gf), she ought to try to lose it, not only because it will make her more marketable but because it's good for her health.
Anyway, I applaud you, luv, for trying to lose some weight and I hope you are able to stay motivated and stick with it. And, btw, I assume you already brush your hair and try to dress nice (without breaking the bank, of course). I was just using those as examples.
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I think this is the best post you have ever written on CP.
Luv, my advice to you is keep doing what you are doing. Fixing yourself first is the most important thing that anyone can do because if you don't like yourself you will find it hard for others to like you or find you attractive. Self-confidence IMVHO is one of the most important traits for everyone.