As others have said before me, be strong for your child.

I don't have any experience in these situations, but reacting harshly creates an even further divide between you and the mother which consequently harms your child. Considering her situation, you may need to be on at least speaking terms when it comes to her care. I hope things work out and I'm sorry this happened to you.

Remember, do everything you do from here on out for her.

I can agree with that. But we are talking about porn equaling physical cheating.

In that case, I've been cheating since I met my wife 8 years ago. :)

Dude, my deepest sympathy. That's a gut punch no one deserves!

I'm sorry, man. I feel bad enough for you, but I feel awful for your little girl. Get a couple of professionals in your life: a relationship counsellor or a damned good lawyer or maybe both. Your bartender can make the pain go away for a while but he can't help you work the problem.

I really can't pretend to know what you're going through so I won't. I've had my heart shredded by a dame or several but nothing like that. I felt like dog balls each time. I can't imagine how I would feel in your shoes.

What worked for me was striving for excellence. In whatever the hell I had going at the time.

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.tonight was the slam dunk contest. Wife /girlfriend let's you watch it. Sports illustrated swimsuit issue show comes on right after. Wife/ girlfriend says no you can't, don't watch that.....**** you, you just watched a bunch of young studs in muscle t shirts n shorts.

I should note that you're welcome to reach out to me whenever. If you want to scream obscenities at me over the phone, do it. Sometimes you need to say or do shit that you can't do to or around buddies in real life. You need something, shoot me a smoke.

Happy Valintines Day!

And killing babies!

Feel what you feel. People like to be helpful and tell you to not be mad/sad/hurt but that's not going to help. Feel them all -- just don't do anything that will make matters worse or convince yourself that things can't get better in the future. You just don't know.

It sucks but you can't make people love/respect you.

my wife left me via text message so I understand your gut wrenching pain Beach. It doesn't heal quick enough, but if you allow yourself to focus on making a better you, there WILL be other people *if you allow* to help fill that void. They will never completely fill that void until YOU are ready to fill it and that is OK. it is OK to NOT be okay.. but understand that the more you allow yourself to be dragged down by the hurt, that it could have some devastating effects on your life in all aspects. Be strong.

you really suck at this whole "cry on my shoulder thing" lol

Ya know this may be worthy of it's own thread on stories.</br></br>I had an ex-girlfriend in college that I walked up behind in mid sentence offering to blow my frat brother in the bathroom. I walked up to ask her if she needed another Iron City (went to school at U of Pitt) and her exact words were "I'll blow you in the bathroom".</br></br>I still wonder every once in awhile what was in that mouth I was kissing but I was a 4 year wrestler who had balls in my face and arm pit sweat drip in my mouth so I was able to blow it off as just another "yuck" in that regard but the emotional hit was the bad part..</br></br>That shit is tough man. The key right now is not to react on impulse. You seem like a guy who has his shit together pretty well. Don't **** it up.

Sorry man. Sucks to have to go through.
Let me guess. She hooked back up with this X via Facebook?
I've had more married woman come onto me via Facebook. Then I care to discuss