But that's part of love.. infatuation is.

I think you can look at someone and just intuitively know that they would be ideal for you.

I can't decide if your head is up your ass or in the clouds.

Perhaps I have a cloudy ass?

I'm not saying love at first sight has to happen, or always does. I don't even thing most people experience it. But it is out there, somewhere.

This has to be a personal scale. No way is this a global scale.

So, you personally think that you are only a little better than average.
Oh ho hum. She's not horrible, but she's no better than most everyone else.

So you lose weight. I'm so happy for your progress, but where is that going to put you on your scale? Is it sliding depending on how much you lose?

I guess my point is your scale for yourself does you no good. No one is going to immediately use your scale to determine where you stand on theirs. So defining yourself as merely slightly better than average... Gosh Luv, you're just setting yourself up for every guy to accept your decision in the matter and classify you as slightly better than average too.

Every man that ever loved me thought I was a 10 at one point. I bet I'm a -4 on some of those same scales afterwards. You can weigh 100 lbs and its not going to automatically make you hot. Thats gotta come from within. And it sure isn't going to come from you thinking you're just a little better than ugly.

I think what I think of myself has everything to do with where I stand with others. Until I feel worthy enough, I'm never going to believe that someone else sees me as a 10. Yes, it will go up as I lose weight. With each pound shed, I gain that much more confidence, and confidence definitely makes one more attractive. I know beauty comes from within, but I've yet to get past a first date with just my personality.

I've seen plenty of skinny women who were pretty hideous looking being thin does not equal good looking.

And I can't convince you that you're a 10 already just because your dating pool is small?

I don't think I could ever offer her advice we come from opposite ends, she comes from the always trying to be good enough side and I come from the extreme confidence bordering on arrogant side.

Oh, I know. I do think I'm pretty. Honestly, I do. I just think that fat takes away from it. Of course, if I don't hate my fat self enough to want to change, then I won't change. That's probably a big part of that number.

Just stop it right now. The last thing men want are women who intrinsically value themselves and have a strong sense of self worth.

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Nope, and I don't think the hottest guy on earth could convince me. It's something I have to do for myself, and I'm doing it.

Generally if you are insecure it'll never go away...you may lose all the weight you wanna lose, then you'll find something else you don't like and want to change that...the flaw picking game.

I can't think of anything else I would change. Other than wishing I didn't have to pluck my eyebrows, of course.

We'll see I'm just going on what I've personally seen....

And anyone man or woman that has giant bushy eyebrows should do something about them. If anyone ever noticed I don't have eyebrows like that.

Generally more acceptable for guys to have a little bushier of an eyebrow than a woman, but most definitely yes. I actually sat down with a friend and watched American Idol last night. I wanted to bring Jorge through the screen and start going to town plucking.